Dating when sober
(Guys, if you’re reading this…get in touch if you want to share!) Just like we can meet the same types of guy over and over, men can do the same with women.She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.” The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.The Bitter Gal The Bitter Gal is angry — usually about everything, but especially about men. A guy never has a chance, even he is the nicest guy in the world and really likes her.(Which usually doesn’t last very long since, no matter how pretty and smart she is, she is no fun to be around.) The truth is that The Bitter Gal has been playing the victim for most (if not all) of her life. People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. But I tell them that I help men by helping women dating after 40. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.Just like women, the men you’re dating have lived and learned.
The 18 Year Old The 18 year old dates – sometimes a lot – but she doesn’t have relationships because “she doesn’t want the men who want her, and the men she wants don’t want her.” She doesn’t know what will make her happy and has not yet learned how to communicate and relate to grownup men.By default she clings to the same type of guy she wanted in high school or college. (See the Wow Me Woman below.) The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the 18 year old.Try as he might, the 60-year-old fabulous guy can’t measure up to her expectations because she’s looking for a man who doesn’t exist.So I thought I’d tell you about the experience men have when they’re trying to “date like a grownup.” If you’ve read my e Book, you know that I believe strongly that empathizing with men is absolutely essential to your dating and relationship success.The definition of empathy is “the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings.
When he passes those tests or shows he has feelings for her, she questions it and might up the ante.